Thursday, July 18, 2013

Marriage is a Lifetime Lesson 6 - 100% Equal

In case you're new here, I've been doing a marriage series about what makes our marriage work. You can find other posts here. Go check them out.

Today I'm going to talk about what you give and take in a marriage. I know a lot of people who think it should be 50/50...but Mr. and I believe that you should be 100/100 percent. You should give everything you have into your marriage. Keeping track is only going to lead to disagreements and fights. Like, I did the dishes last night, it's your turn, or I went to the store and made dinner, now it's time for you to do something. For us this also include finances - but that's a whole other post. We have one bank account and neither of us has our own separate account.

There are going to be times in your marriage that it will feel like you are doing all the chores around the house, but stop and think why. Is it because your spouse is working 80 hour work weeks, while you're on a 40 hour work week? Just think how nice it is for them to come home to a clean house and nice meal after a long work day. If the only reason you can come up with, is that your spouse is being lazy, then by all means, call them out on it.

If you're only going to give 50 percent of yourself, then expect to get 50 percent back. Just because 50+50 equals100 doesn't make it a whole in a relationship. Who wants to waste energy thinking about how to make everything fair? That to me is a waste of time, time that can be spent doing something together and enjoying each other instead of trying to make things fair. Relationships take work and if you're willing to give it 100 percent effort, then expect great returns and a happy marriage. At least that's what we've learned in the 10 years we've been together.

What are your thoughts?


  1. You know what is fair? Make your husband do everything.. I'm kidding. Not really... :) :)

    I totally agree with you!

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

  2. Loved reading this! So insightful :) Hope I can use this advice someday!