Monday, February 10, 2020

3 Tips To Find Time Together After Kids

Hi Foxy Friends! Today my friends Dara, Adrienne, Lauren, Ashley, and Sarita are hosting a new link up called Not Just A Mom. I love this, because sometimes we forget that we were people before our kids. Today's topic is how we fit in date nights.

| TIP 1 | Make it a priority - Stop Making Excuses

I feel like so many times people make excuses why they can't go out for example: the kids are too young, they might miss me, I have mommy guilt.  Stop with the excuses and remember why you are with your partner and you were humans before the kids came who went out, probably on a regular basis. Don't have a sitter? Find a friend, do a kid swap. Not comfortable with doing that at night, do a day date. Just stop making the excuses and go out, you'll be happy you got some you time, and you'll be a happier couple, which in turn your kids will be happy and healthy becuase your relationship is too.

Something that might interest you: How To Deal With Mommy Guilt

| TIP 2 | Schedule It!

If you don't schedule it it won't happen. We usually have to schedule it a month or so in advance. Yes it takes a while to do it, but we get it on the schedule so other things don't get in the way. If it's on the calendar, and someone asks us to do something, we say we're busy. If it's not scheduled then it's not going to happen. Trust me, sometimes we go months without going on an actualy date. Sometimes we'll find a day when both of our schedules at work are non busy and we'll go to lunch together, and sometimes we just plan a date when both kids are in school, so we don't have to worry about finding a sitter. Yes you have to take a day off work, but sometimes it's worth it.

| TIP 3 | Does not have to involve going out

Most times we are super busy with sports schedules and what not. But we find time almost EVERY night to spend time with just us. We put the kids to bed, and usually if kitchen clean up hasn't happened before then we do it together. It goes so much faster with the two of us, we do kitchen clean up and lunch making together. Then we head to watch one show before bed. Yes this happens almost every night. No I don't get as much sleep as I probably should, but it's worth it to me to get 30 minutes less sleep to have time with Mr. each night. I really do think this makes our relationship stronger, we go to bed at the same time, we have the same schedule. No one is staying up while the other goes to bed (unless one of us is sick). We have time to chat a bit while getting ready for bed and go over the day and what is happening the next day.

So what do you do to fit in Date Nights with your partner?

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