Monday, August 18, 2014

Sick, sick, sick


Friday was a no work day for me, so I took the kids to an outdoor mall, and asked my dad if he wanted to go with, he of course jumped at the chance. Baby Fox wanted to ride the carousal. Mini Fox loved it, or at least was interested in everything that was going on...







When we got home Baby Fox wanted to play hide and seek, I think this was a pretty good spot.


Mini Fox practiced her guitar skills


After Mr. got home from work, I worked on this...craft project for Mini Fox's birthday party!


Crafting while the boys swim and the baby sleeps, perfect evening in my book!


Saturday I woke up totally sick, well I was sort of sick on Friday but was able to fight through it, but Saturday my voice went to "sexy sick voice" (Friends reference anyone?) and had to skip out on my cousin's baby shower, I was so sad and disappointed to miss it. But my Mom and Sister came and got my gift, so at least she still got my gift...sad face. Oh and Mini Fox is sick too, stuffy nose, poor thing can't breathe, and HATES the snot sucker with a passion.

I got some good snuggle time in


Mini Fox loves herself some eggs...

Love those two little teeth there at the bottom, so cute! Although we need the other teeth to come in because we've been in teething hell for a couple of weeks now!
 Exploring her brother's stool. Baby Fox leaves his stool in here because he likes to stand on it and play with her while we change her diaper. We were taking it back everyday, but Baby Fox kept dragging it back in there, so it's now a permanent structure in her room.

Yep it was a jammy day for her too

Mr. and Baby Fox's selfie, love it!


Not many pictures taken Saturday, but we did have some good laundry basket races.

Although she wore jammies all day, we did feel she needed new jammies. She heard them playing in the hallway and wanted in on the action, so we're mid jammy change.

 Yes I am still wearing the same thing I was earlier...no I didn't get out of my pj's

Love her in polka dots, it says "Little Sister"

Sunday I was feeling much better.

The boys watching some TV before heading out to the park.


I went and did some retail therapy with these gals. We are going to do some damage when these girls get older...I'm worried!



Someone actually fell asleep in the stroller, miracle of all miracles.


This lady bought a mini iPad, FYI, they are $200 at Target right now.


Waiting for her Mommy to try on some clothes...she was not impressed with my silly faces.


When we got home, the boys went swimming.


And she wanted to go swimming.



Like stood here for a good 5 minutes pounding the door. Poor thing, if only she wasn't sick...


And I made pot roast for dinner, yum! You should make it, super easy! Although we change the recipe at bit and add WAY more onions...like 3-4 times as much...cause just one onion doesn't cut it for us. I also add a bit more apple cider vinegar.

food was my thought, not presentation, so forgive the heap of food on my plate, it was delicious and will be eaten again tonight!
Besides being sick, I had a good weekend, got a new pair of jeans and sweater, so that made me insanely happy. Come on cold weather! FYI: It was 92° yesterday...doesn't look like it's coming any time soon.

The next two weekends we have NOTHING planned, shocking I know, I can't wait!


Linking up with Faith, Sarah and Heather for Mommy Moments
and with Bella & Lisa



Thursday, August 14, 2014

When Is a Good Time for Baby #2?

Another Thursday, another topic for the One Year and Beyond Series, today's topic? Deciding when the time is right for baby #2 (and/or how to handle these questions). Hmmm...obviously we had baby #2 and thought the time was right, but looking back, here is what I thought I knew and now looking back here is what I know now.
 
What I thought I knew/wanted: I want my kids to be no more than two years apart.
 
What I know now:  I think whatever age difference your kids are there are pros and cons. I have a friend who had her kids 16 months apart, she loves the age difference now, but admits that it was ROUGH having her kids so close in age for the first year, now it's a lot better and they play together, etc, but she said it was rough, especially because her second one was needy as all get out. 
 
I thought I wanted ours 2 years apart, but we tried and it just didn't happen for us and it ended up that they are 2.75 years apart and now looking back, it's amazing. Baby Fox was old enough to really understand what was going on, and is actually really helpful. He understands when I tell him to stand next to the car and wait for me, instead of running out into the parking lot. He understands when I have to feed sister and can't attend to his every needs. He can play by himself while I tend to Mini Fox's needs. I think any younger it would have obviously been doable, but this age gap is perfect for us.

What I thought I knew/wanted: That people didn't mind if you asked them when they were having a second if you were close friends.

What I know now: So not true! While we didn't have the same struggle as some people have, it felt like it at the time. With Baby Fox I got pregnant on the first try, so in my head it was going to happen right away. But it didn't and time passed and both of my good friends got pregnant and were due two weeks apart and I felt left out. They had all of their pregnancy woes to talk about and I felt left out and alone. Every month that passed by and we weren't pregnant I cried. Why did I cry? We had a perfectly healthy, wonderful 1.5 year old. Every time someone asked me when we were going to have a second it was like someone punching me in the gut. I wanted to scream and say, we are trying and it's just not happening for us, why don't you mind your own business. Meanwhile, 2 more close friends announced their pregnancies. So now I know, just don't ask any more. I don't know what they are going through, I don't know anything about them, even if it's a good friend. If they mention it, I'll talk with them, but in general I don't mention it. 

What did I eventually start saying when people asked? Most of the time I would just laugh it off and say it's not for lack of trying, wink wink. But as the months wore on, my answers turned curt and I answered in a way where they knew not to ask again. I know, so dramatic, but it's how I felt at the time. And how you feel is how you feel, right?
 
 
So what are your thoughts on the subject?
 
How far apart are you kids?
 
 
  Hopefully you can relate to all of these Baby #2 talks this week!  Check out the other mama's blogs for even more!  And be sure to link up with us below if you also have a post on this.  
Aug 14:  Deciding when the time is right for baby #2 (and/or how to handle these questions)
Aug 21:  Tricks for eating out with your toddler
Aug 28:  Feeling confident as a mom (How to feel this way, Your struggle with, etc.)

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Randoms From Life

I did it, I wore an all white outfit out on the town. I have a confession...that other time I wore all white? I actually just put the outfit on and didn't actually wear it out...but this time, I figured you know what? I'm going out to a bar in Laguna Beach, I think if any occasion called for all white, it would be going to a bar on the beach. I even rocked my hookerish shoes, and my newly bought leopard belt, add some pink lipstick and I'm all set to go.

I tried to get more pictures, but my ride got there to pick me up, and Baby Fox wanted to pose with me..,but only had on super hero underwear and a t-shirt on, so I thought I would respect his privacy...but they were super cute photos.


So onto some random photos in my life:

  • We are so behind on our DVR shows that we're watching shows that are still advertising for the Olympics...


  • I worked on these last night for Mini Fox's party...I think they turned out super cute!
 

My model...best picture I could get...


I am going to be a hot gluing maniac for the next few weeks...I'm thinking I'm going to make a bunch of these, hang them on some branches and then let people take them as their party gifts...what should I do for the boys that are coming? Hmmm....???Any suggestions welcome...Mr. says who cares, boys don't need anything...

  • Mr. reading the second book in the Divergent Series...I left him here last night to go out with some friends...he's almost done with the book.  Yes he just started the series on Sunday...and it's Wednesday.


  • Some fabric I just got to finish up Mini Fox's room...probably won't be able to get to this project until after her birthday party...but hey better late than never right?

  • I can't help but show you something that is so hard to catch on camera...but I did it...you should be proud.
She was so happy she was drinking water from a big girl cup
 

Look at that, two smiles...caught on camera, this made her insanely happy, I'll take it burry and all.


And then she was really upset when it was time to go upstairs for bed...she was soaked


And that's all I have for you today...

What makes you insanely happy?

Baby Giggles, you can't help but be insanely happy when babies giggle and laugh that deep from the belly kind.


Linking up with Because Shanna Said So, Get Your Pretty On, The Pleated Poppy, and Tucker Up
Also Linking up with Ashley and Jess for "It's the Little Things".

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Marriage is a Lifetime - Lesson 8, Part 2

Back in April (wow, how has it been that long?) anyway.... back in April I introduced you to Dave. And his 7 steps to financial peace. I'll wait for you to go read it...okay now that you're back let's move on to how we incorporated it into our lives.


 
I think the financial part is HUGE in a marriage, it can tear a lot of marriages apart, this is something that needs/should be done with both partners. It shouldn't be on one person to figure everything out, it should be an on going conversation, daily/weekly/monthly, whatever you chose, just start talking!

If this seems overwhelming I'll break it down for you. Since I'm an engineer, I'll talk in outline format...cause I like the way they look.

*sidenote: We rarely use our credit cards, we use our debit card, so we can see everything that we spend in the month that we spend it, credit cards are a month to a month and half behind when it actually, so it's harder to keep track of spending for that month. If we do end up using a credit card for a big purchase, we do count it in the month that we ACTUALLY spent the money, not when the credit card bill came in.

Okay back to my list:



1)      Get at least 2 months worth of data of exactly how you are spending your money each month (it will surprise you, we didn’t think we were spending that much on food, but turns we were spending a TON on food)

a)      Don't leave anything out (count those quick stops to 7-11 for snack food, coffee, postage stamps, etc, we were able to do this right away since we don't ever use cash and ALWAYS use our debit card

i)        If you can't get the exact details but want to start right away with budgeting, try your best guess using the data you do have, your budget is constantly changing each month, so monthly adjustments will have to be made.

2)      Figure out how much money you are bringing in a month

a)      If this varies, use the worst case scenario, that way if you get more, it’s just an added bonus and can go to whatever you want.

3)      Take out the necessities to live

a)      Mortgage/rent
b)      Food
i)        When we first started this we went from spending about $1200 a month (for just the two of us) to spending about $650 a month, huge difference right? That’s $550 to use for debt people!
(1)   We decided that we wanted to try to spend less, so we took the money out in cash each month, it really helped us to understand how much money we were spending on food. We would be out and about and think let’s go out to eat, and then realize we only have $200 left of food money, let’s just eat those left overs we have at home. It really makes you see how much money you waste on food, and how we do a lot of things out of convenience.
c)      Utilities – Power, Water, Gas
d)     Transportation
i)         Car payment
ii)       Car Insurance
e)      Debt payments
i)        Refer back to debt snowball for this (click here for Dave’s Debt Snowball Tool - looks like you have to pay for it, but you can try it for 7 days, then you can see how you can adapt their system to work for you in excel); figure out exactly how much extra you have to do this…the quicker you pay this off, the quicker you’ll have the freedom to spend your money how you want, when you want! I know easier said than done. 

4)      Decide what you absolutely need to start saving for. This might vary depending on how much debt you have to pay off. For example, if you would rather just throw everything into paying this off as quickly as possible, that is totally fine, you can do this part after you pay off all your debt. If you just want to save for some of the things, like House Insurance, Property Tax, Car Repairs, House Repairs…even if it’s a small amount a month, it adds up and when those things happen, you can rest assured that you don’t need to panic and you can just take it out of that “fund”

a)      Here are a few suggestions, that Dave gives and that we do as well.
i)           Charitable Gifts
ii)         Property Tax
iii)       House Repairs
iv)       House Insurance
v)         Car Replacement
vi)       Car Repairs/Tags/Maintenance
vii)     Clothes
viii)   Medical Bills
ix)       Life Insurance
x)         Furniture/Home Décor
xi)       Gifts (including Christmas)
xii)     Vacation
xiii)   Entertainment

b)      Here are a few that we save for that we think are important to us
i)           Sarah Camera Fund (I’m constantly saving for new equipment)
ii)         Music for Mr. (I told you he writes music as a hobby right?)
iii)       Gym
iv)       Preschool

5)      Now that you have the categories you need to save for, decide how much you want to save per year and divide that by 12, so you have your monthly save for each category.



6)      Find some way to keep track of your budget. Dave has a tool you can use here, I’ve never used it, but it’s a start! If you find you don’t like it, you can figure out what you DO like. We use a very extensive Excel spread sheet, but I hear that there are some great Apps out there to use. I like to use Excel, easy to see everything at once on a computer, and not a tiny mobile device. *sorry I can’t suggest one, if anyone has a good one, leave it in the comments, others might benefit.

a)      Make sure that you distribute how much your projected income is for the month at the  begining of the month, that way you have something to work towards. Meet weekly to check in with each other and make sure that your spreadsheet is still working for you, if something came up and you need to move funds around, do at the meeting.


7)      It seems hard now, but really, after almost doing this for 4 years, Mr. and my time commitment went from about 10 hours a month to maybe 1-2 hours a month, if that. It really does pay off to know exactly where your money is going and how it can work for you!


Here is an example of a budget that you could do in Excel, the numbers are purely made up. *There is one more thing that you can't see, I made sure that the Budgeted Amount, equals how much the Total Income is.




As you can see, everything is accounted for. The "Blow Money" category is for those things that you don't plan for and don't fit into a category. Some of the numbers might seem random, like the Personal Care, which is a very extra item, but I copied the excel sheet we did for my parents and some of the numbers I didn't change, like the personal care and the gym.

Of course there is work behind any budget you do, you have to enter the actual numbers into this spreadsheet, just like any budgeting type app you would do. Since we use debit card for pretty much EVERYTHING, I just download our statement into Excel, and use that for helping me enter all of my data into this excel sheet.

Always remember:


You are controlling your money to work for you, not the other way around

If you want to buy an extra pair of shoes, that's great, but the money has to come from somewhere, so maybe the personal care number is a little less. We try not to take money from categories that we will need in the future, like the car replacement fund, or the house insurance, etc.

Was this helpful? I know it's a lot of information at once, but hopefully this gets you started. Just go step by step, do one step each evening, and in the course of a week, you'll have it done!

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